Helping Elderly Parents Transition from their Home

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After Marsha’s husband passed away, her daughter Beverly, started coming around more often and noticed that her mother was not able to keep up with the house & yard as she used to. Marsha also mentioned that she didn’t enjoy cooking for just herself, so would often eat snacks or frozen meals from the grocery store. As a result she had lost weight that she didn’t’ need to. Her driving abilities had also become unsafe. Deep down Marsha knew she should not be driving and therefore did not venture far from her home. Because she wasn’t able to get out as she used to and many of her friends had moved closer to their families or passed away, she was feeling lonely. One day Beverly was speaking with her friend Kathy about her mother. Kathy mentioned that her own 83 year old mother had recently moved into a Senior Living Community nearby where she had meals, housekeeping, transportation & activities provided.  Kathy told Beverly her mother hadn’t been this happy since she lost her husband 8 years ago. Beverly told Kathy she would need a stick of dynamite to get her mother to move from her home since she was very stubborn. Many of us are facing issues with aging parents who are unable to take care of their homes or themselves any longer and becoming more reliant on others to enable them to continue living in their homes. They are unaware of their dependence on others because they are still “living on their own”. Most seniors and their family members do not realize that being unable to take care of one’s home or self is more costly now and in the future. As Senior’s age and are unable to maintain their home as they used to, they let routine maintenance go by the wayside, causing the home to deteriorate and lose value. Simple tasks such as cleaning out the gutters, replacing weather stripping, spraying for insects, checking for electrical problems, cleaning dryer vents, checking for plumbing drips or more extensive water damage can all cause costly damage to a home if left unmaintained. Most Senior’s assets are tied up in their home. When they need to move because of a change in health condition or decide to downsize, they rely on the sale of their home in order to be able to move to a Senior Living Community, whether Independent Living, Assisted Living or Memory Care. The longer a home is unmaintained, the more significant the decrease in value and the higher the cost will be in order to ensure it is in sellable condition and will sell for the price needed to cover the costs of expenses in the long run. If a home has to be sold quickly, due to a sudden change in health, the sale price will be significantly lower than if one plans ahead and works with a Realtor to ensure the home is in prime selling condition. The logic of many is that staying in their home costs less per month than downsizing and moving to a Senior Living Community. They compare the monthly cost of living in a Senior Living Community with what they are paying to remain in their current home. What they aren’t taking into account are the costs...

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5 Steps to Weaning Dependent Adult Children off Senior Parents

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Many families are facing the phenomenon of trying to ensure their senior parents have the best quality of life during their retirement years, yet dealing with the resistance of a dependent Adult Child living with or off of their parent. This dependency is depleting their parents of assets and income that is necessary for their retirement needs and quality of life. Parents are willing to provide for their children even when they know their children should be able to provide for themselves. They do this out of fear of what might happen to their dependent child or what that adult child might do, if they say “no” or no longer provide for their child’s “needs”. It is a huge roadblock and problem for families to overcome in helping ensure their loved ones can move on and have a better quality of life without the dependency of their children inhibiting them. To help with this process refer to the plan below. Scenario-Adult daughter helping mother with dependent adult son The Plan: Adult daughter, or someone mother will listen to, needs to have a conversation to get mother to think about “what is going to happen to your son when you pass away”? You need to get her to understand that she is enabling her son to depend on her and that it is not healthy or helpful for either of them. In her enabling him to be dependent on her it is going to hurt him in the long-run, when she, nor her income, is available to him after she is gone. While she is still around she needs to help her son, by weaning him off of her assistance so that he can learn to live emotionally & financially without her. Have your mother get some counseling or read some articles or books to figure out why she is allowing her son to be dependent on her and what fears drive her to continue to allow him to be dependent on her. Also, present some resources for the adult son such as counseling, job search options, educational venues and social avenues for him to seek healthy relationships with others his age. Spending time with those his age might motivate him to set goals for himself. Once we can get your mother and her son to understand that #1 it’s not healthy or helpful for him to be dependent on her when she will not be around to take care of him forever #2 her quality of life is just as important as his quality of life and she deserves to enjoy her retirement years, then we can begin the next step of the plan for weaning your brother off of depending on your mother. Your mother will let her son know that by “X date”, one of the following will need to take place: he needs to have a job or he needs to find a new residence and/or your mother will be moving to a Senior Living Community. It is important to set a date or timeframe that he knows is going to happen. It is to be made clear to him that after this date her resources will no longer be available for him to live on. He will need to find another source of income for...

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Guide for Senior Living Options

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As you are beginning to research Senior Living Options for yourself or a loved one you are probably beginning to notice that there are many choices available. This can make your search very time consuming and unless you are familiar with the various Senior Living Options it could take you weeks or months to make an educated decision that you will be happy with in the long run. In order to assist you in narrowing down the options, please refer to the categories below to gain an understanding of what options might be a good fit. If you prefer to speak with someone rather than read, it might benefit you to call a Senior Living Advisor at Senior One Source to learn more about the options and which communities within various categories are more preferable for your situation. There is also a reference chartat the bottom of this article detailing types of care & costs. Independent Senior Living Communities: Independent Senior Living Communities provide meals, housekeeping, transportation, emergency response systems and social activities. They have community areas for dining, activities and exercise. Living options can range between Apartment Homes to Cottage or Villa Homes with full kitchens. Sizes range from Studios to 3 Bedrooms. Some Independent Senior Living Communities now offer on-site home care services for residents needing minimal assistance with medication set-up or reminders, bathing assistance and dressing assistance. Utilizing Home Care for services beyond these minimal assistance needs can be more costly than moving to Assisted Living. Cost: $900-$4000 per month Assisted Living: Assisted Living Communities provide meals, housekeeping, transportation, emergency response systems, social activities and on-site 24/7 care staff to assist with Activities of Daily Living (ADL’s). Activities of Daily Living are Bathing, Toileting, Dressing, Medication Management and Transferring. Apartments range from Studio to 2 Bedroom sizes and typically have a kitchenette (Microwave, Refrigerator, sink & cabinets. Cost: $2500-$6000 per month Memory Care: Memory Care or Alzheimer’s Care Communities specialize in caring for those with Alzheimer’s or Dementia. They provide meals, housekeeping, transportation, emergency response systems, social activities and on-site 24/7 care staff to assist with Activities of Daily Living (ADL’s). Activities of Daily Living are Bathing, Toileting, Dressing, Medication Management and Transferring. A large portion of residents in these communities receive reminders and cueing in the early to mid-stages of the disease process and need more assistance with ADL’s as their Alzheimer’s or Dementia progresses. Activities are focused more on stimulating cognition. For those with early to mid-stage Alzheimer’s or Dementia an Assisted Living Community may be able to provide most care needs of the resident as long as there is no wandering, exit seeking, behaviors or too much confusion. Cost: $3000-$7000 per month Skilled Nursing & Rehabilitation: Skilled Nursing Facilities provide 24/7 skilled nursing care for those with higher care needs or in need of short term stay rehabilitation stays. Higher care needs that may not be appropriate for lower level care options might include transferring using Hoyer Lift, assistance with eating, wound care, IV Treatment/Therapy and 2 Person Transfer. Rehabilitation stays might include therapy following knee or hip surgery, stroke and heart attack. Cost: $4000-$8000 per month Adult Family Homes: Adult Family Homes provide assisted living care in a smaller home-like setting. There are typically 5-11 residents in these homes with 1-2 caregivers...

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What is a Senior Living Advisor?

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When you want to invest your money wisely, you call a Financial Advisor. When searching for a home, you call a realtor. When you are not feeling well, you call your Doctor. When you have legal concerns, you call an Attorney. Who do you turn to when you want to ensure you are making the best decision about one of life’s most important transitions pertaining to how and where you or a loved one should spend remaining retirement years? Typically, when something changes with you or a loved ones needs you probably turn to a phone book or internet search. Then upon narrowing down options via those sources you begin to make calls and schedule appointments with those contacts. This can be very time consuming and if you aren’t sure what questions you should ask or what to look for, your conclusion of which is the best option may be one you later regret. When making a decision about long term health care needs during retirement years as you or a loved one are aging and becoming more dependent on others, you should contact a Senior Living Advisor. A Senior Living Advisor can provide you with an insider’s perspective on Senior Living options in your area. A Senior Living Advisor is a great resource which will save you time, money, hassle and worry. An experienced Senior Living Advisor will be able to provide you with information on which are the best options for Independent Living, Assisted Living, Memory Care, Group Homes, Adult Daycare, Respite Care, Home Care, Home Health, Skilled Nursing, Rehabilitation, Hospice, Financial Options, Veterans Solutions, Medicaid, Elder Law Attorneys, Real Estate Agents, Estate Sale Planners, Moving Assistance and Geriatric Care Managers. A large percentage of clients a Senior Living Advisor is assisting have already made a decision on one or more types of senior living options and aren’t happy with the ones they chose. They realize how time consuming it is to research thoroughly and that their knowledge about senior living options is very limited. Senior Living Advisors have worked closely with businesses in the area for many years and are aware of which will be a great fit for you or a loved one after providing you with an assessment. Not only can your Senior Living Advisor provide you with an Assessment and give you the options that are best for your situation, they also can schedule appointments for you. provide transportation, accompany you on the appointments and ensure an excellent  solution is provided for the needs that have arisen. For more information on this topic contact Kelley Rogers, a Senior Living Advisor for Senior One Source. With more than 14 years of experience, Senior One Source Advisor’s have already done the research and know which options can be trusted to provide a better quality of life for you or a loved one. By allowing us to guide you, we are saving you time, money, hassle & worry. Call a Senior Living Advisor today for Free Cost Estimates, Advice and Health Assessments! To find out more about Senior One Source visit

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Choosing A Senior Living Community

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Following Article available on The choice to move into a senior living community is as individual as the person making the decision. There is no clear-cut, step-by-step template that tells people exactly when it is time to consider a senior living community, whether that be an independent living community, assisted living community or nursing home. However, there are numerous signs that a new living arrangement is needed, such as inability to manage a home’s upkeep, assistance with meals, medication management, loneliness, and other issues. Here, we offer some tips for choosing a quality residence and the important factors in the decision-making process. Choosing a senior living residence for yourself or a loved one is one of the biggest decisions of your life. It involves the sobering realization that living alone in a home full of love and memories may no longer be the best setting at this phase of your life or your loved one’s life. Fortunately, many more assisted living and senior living options are available today than there were decades ago. “Choice” is the key word in any conversation about senior living options. Senior living offers choice about where you or your loved one wants to live, choice about the services provided, and choice about the level of care and type of environment that bests matches your or your loved one’s physical and emotional needs. Each senior living resident and potential resident is a unique individual, so high-quality senior living residences offer a wide array of choices. While every senior living community is different, typical services include: Housekeeping services Transportation Assistance with eating, bathing, dressing, toileting, and walking Access to health and medical services Alzheimer’s and memory care Staff available to respond to both scheduled and unscheduled needs 24-hour security Emergency call systems for each resident’ apartment Exercise and wellness programs Medication management Personal laundry services Social and recreational activities Checklist for Evaluating Senior Living Communities The downloadable assisted living checklist defines the typical assisted living residence and what consumers can expect from an assisted living community. You can use this checklist when you visit and evaluate a potential new home for yourself or for a loved one. The guide and checklist also includes information on choosing an assisted Living communities for individuals with Alzheimer’s disease or related dementia, often referred to as Special Care Units (SCUs). Download the Guide to Choosing an Assisted Living Community checklist. Assessing Senior Living Care Needs Because a variety of senior living care settings are available-including independent living, assisted living, nursing homes, etc.-it’s important to assess your or your loved one’s care needs. While some seniors may need little to no assistance, others may need medication management and some health-care monitoring, and still others may have acute care needs. Senior living communities you’re considering will conduct an assessment to determine if that care environment is appropriate. However, to give you an initial feel for which environment may be most appropriate, the Centers for Medicare and Medicaid Services offers the CarePlanner interactive tool to help you choose between different living options. Family Caregiver Considerations Many times, families can make a joint decision about when it is time to consider moving into a senior living care setting. This type of decision-making allows for some research and time to explore the very real...

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Assisted Living Checklist

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Community Review Checklist from The best advice is to locate and visit assisted living communities before a crisis. Meeting the staff, residents and often family members is one of the best ways to learn about the community. Every assisted living community is unique, but there are common questions to ask yourself and the community before, during, and after a visit. The checklist that follows will help you ask these questions and make an assessment for yourself and/or a loved one. Environment * As you arrive at the community, do you like its location and outward appearance? * As you enter the lobby and tour the community, is the décor attractive and homelike? * Do you receive a warm greeting from staff welcoming you to the community? * Does the executive director call residents by name and interact warmly with them as you tour the community? * Do residents socialize with each other and appear happy and comfortable? * Are you able to talk with residents about how they like the community and staff? * Do the residents seem to be appropriate housemates for you or your loved one? * Are staff members appropriately dressed, personable, and outgoing? * Do the staff members treat each other in a professional manner? * Are the staff members that you pass during your tour friendly to you? * Are visits with the resident welcome at any time? Physical Features * Is the community well-designed for your needs? * Is the floor plan easy to follow? * Are doorways, hallways, and rooms accommodat­ing to wheelchairs and walkers? * Are elevators available for those unable to use stairways? * Are handrails available to aid in walking? * Are cupboards and shelves easy to reach? * Are floors of a non-skid material and carpets firm to ease walking? * Does the community have good natural and artificial lighting? * Is the community clean, free of odors, and appropriately heated/cooled? * Does the community have sprinklers, smoke detectors, and clearly marked exits? Needs Assessments, Residency Agreements, Costs & Finances * Is a consumer disclosure form available that dis­closes personal care and supportive services, all fees, as well as move-in and move-out provisions? What are the policies for refunds and transfers? * Is a residency agreement available for review before move-in? * Is there a written plan of care for each resident? How frequently is it reviewed and updated? * Does the community have a process for assessing a resident’s need for services, and are those needs addressed periodically? * Does this periodic assessment process include the resident, his or her family, and community staff, along with the resident’s physician? * Are there any government, private, or corporate programs available to help cover the cost of ser­vices to the resident? * Are additional services available if the resident’s needs change? * Are there different costs for various levels or categories of personal care? * Do billing, payment, and credit policies seem fair and reasonable? * Are residents required to purchase renters’ insur­ance for personal property in their apartments? * Is there a complaints process for dissatisfied residents? * Are the resident bill of rights posted or available for review? Medication & Health Care * Does the community have specific policies regarding storage of medication, assistance with medications,...

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5 Things to look for when Researching Senior Living Communities

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Researching Senior Living Communities for you or a loved can be time consuming. Having worked in Senior Living Sales for 10 years, at 11 different Senior Living Communities, as well as serving as a Senior Living Advisor for over 4 years, I have gained knowledge on what one should look for when considering which option is best for them. Here are 5 things to assist in your search: Friendliness of staff and residents Do not base your decision off solely of your interaction with the sales person. If other staff introduces themselves to you it is a good indicator that they will be friendly when you live there. Staff and residents interacting with one another is a good indicator that there will be less turn-over, which equates to residents receiving more consistent care and better service. Also, resident’s interacting with each other signals that you will be warmly welcomed. Activities Look at the activity calendar before the tour. See if the activity(s) are being lead and how well attended they are. Are the types of activities you are interested in are on the calendar? Ask if you can recommend an activity or outing be added to the calendar. Meals Food choices, quality, nutrition and socialization will improve your overall health and well-being. Find out if meal times are scheduled, a window of time or all day to determine if it fits with your daily routine. Be sure to try a few meals in the communities you are considering to see how quickly the food is served, how residents interact during meal time as well as the overall presentation of the food, quality and variety on the menu. Resident Satisfaction If I were to recommend one thing to do before deciding on a community, it would be to speak with as many residents as possible. In speaking with the residents, you will find out more information than you would from speaking with staff. Keep in mind, there are some residents that, no matter how hard a community tries to please, will always be dissatisfied, which is why I recommend speaking with more than 5. Staffing Ratios Pay attention to how many caregivers you see during your tour. Ask how many caregivers, med-aides and nurses are on duty during each shift. Keep in mind, many communities base the number of care staff off of the acuity levels of the residents. Number of staff on duty is determined by the number of hours of caregiving needed to meet all the care needs of the residents. Lastly, is the care staff serving meals or are there separate dining wait staff serving food in the dining room. If I had a choice, I would prefer the person serving my food during mealtime wasn’t also assisting residents with showers and toileting.   Researching and finding the best Senior Living Community for you or a loved one is a difficult decision and very time consuming. Senior One Source can provide you with local cost free, hassle free, worry free and search free information on which community best fits you or a loved ones needs. For Cost Free guidance and advice on Senior Living Communities contact your local Trusted Senior Living Advisor here.   Article written by Kelley Rogers: Trusted Senior Living Advisor with Senior One...

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